Fantasies are part of a healthy sex life. We fantasize about everything from having sex with someone we do not love to be the life of the party. Here are some of the ways that you can go about maintaining healthy fantasies in a relationship.
Learn to control your fantasies and make sure they do not rule your sex life. Everyone has sexual fantasies about something different. Everyone has the same desires, however, as we age our fantasies will change. If you can learn to not be turned on by something so common as being raped, your fantasy may become a problem.
Because your sexual fantasies can get out of control, it is very important to make sure that you are not imagining or thinking about anything that would make you think about the same thing you are imagining. You need to check into the possibilities, see what could happen and make sure that you do not engage in a situation that you are imagining and might be uncomfortable with. This is why it is so important to get out of the house often and get away from your usual routine when you feel like engaging in fantasies that can be a turn on or turn off.
It is also important to not fantasize about something that is particularly arousing. Do not be caught with your fantasy about being raped if you are getting wet just thinking about it. This can send signals to your partner that something is wrong, or it could get you into something that is awkward and make you uncomfortable.
Learn to identify the fantasy as it is happening and think about it, but not in the moment of the fantasy. Another good idea is to try not to imagine what is happening during the fantasy. This is one way to avoid getting turned on by something that is not erotic for you.
You can check with your partner about your fantasies and how they make you feel about them. You will find that each person will have different fantasies and this is natural. If you don’t enjoy yourself when you indulge in fantasy, or even if it doesn’t turn you on then it might be time to get out of that fantasy.
Start slowly with fantasies. Try to avoid the sexual and erotic things that turn you on and try some things that you both enjoy and that make you happy. It is OK to fantasize about more intimate things than just sex if you feel like it.
You need to be careful with your fantasies. If you start thinking about them too much or taking them too seriously then you will miss out on the fun and pleasure that come from having a fantasy. Having fun during sex is important and part of the reason why we have sex is to have fun and to find ourselves in new positions that we had not thought about before.
Try not to let your fantasies interfere with your normal activities. Keep your healthy fantasies in mind while you are having sex, but try not to take them so seriously that you actually ruin what you are doing. Avoid putting yourself in situations that can upset your healthy fantasies and it will be easier to relax and enjoy yourself.
Keep in mind that sex is meant to be a fun and enjoyable part of your sex life. Find ways to take the stress out of your sexual fantasies and try to remember to slow down and not overdo it when it comes to your sex life. Don’t forget that when you have fun it gives you the opportunity to have the kind of confidence that you need to get yourself out of any bad situations that might occur in the bedroom.
Take a chance with your fantasies and try something new and different. Remember, there is nothing wrong with enjoying a fantasy that is something that you would never consider for real. You should feel free to indulge your fantasy while you are having a good time and remember that you can use these fantasies as a way to have a little fun and feel great.
Remember that you need to make sure that your fantasies are safe and that you never give yourself over to something that you will regret later. If you keep in mind that this is your fantasy and that you enjoy it then that is all you need to do. Remember that you can have healthy fantasies in a healthy sex life.